I have had several conversations with clients who are in recovery, and they are all basically the same. They have had a hard time getting through the tough times, and they don’t want to feel as if they are backsliding into old habits.
The reality is that most people have no idea who they are, or what they want to do. I don’t know if that’s possible, but I don’t know what they want to do right now that they’re not supposed to do.
Staying in a recovery program is like staying in a dark room for so long that your subconscious has developed a desire to get out. If you stay in a dark room for long enough, then you begin to forget who you are. It is like the “night terrors” that happen to some people when they’re under a great deal of stress. The same thing can happen to you if you let your unconscious mind run away with you for too long.
For the most part, people’s unconscious minds run away from stress. But in a way, they can become so strong that they can override our conscious decisions about whether we want to stay in a program or leave it. For example, people who are suicidal often stay in a program rather than leaving it. In fact, one of my very first patients asked me to leave him in an inpatient program for a while.
I have a patient who was in a long recovery program for a while, because he couldn’t take it. He was so depressed that he even became suicidal. I remember taking him out of the program and telling him he should’ve waited until he was in a more stable condition. He told me he was right, but I knew it was too late for him to wait. I asked him if he had his suicide plan, but he said no.
I think that if patients were given the option of a longer period, they would not be so depressed. Most don’t have the ability to commit to anything like that, so they don’t do it. When you’re sick, it’s like you’re not yourself anymore. You’re like a person who is depressed, but you don’t have the ability to take your depression out on others.
This is a common thread among patients. Many who are depressed are often depressed because they feel that no one will give them what they need. A lot of people who are depressed get their depression out on others, but that doesnt mean that they dont feel truly sad.
The reason we don’t see this as a problem is because we’re not thinking any more about them anymore. Because the reason we don’t see this as a problem is that we don’t have the capacity to focus on them. We have some capacity to think, but not to concentrate. We have a capacity to think like we have a brain. All of us have some capacity to think like we have a brain.
So what is the problem with thinking? The problem is that we are not aware of the fact that we are thinking. It doesnt make sense to us that we are thinking, and yet we do. We dont have to wonder why we are thinking, we just think it. What we do need to do, and the solution, is to think more clearly, and with more self awareness. When we do this, then we can stop thinking about ourselves and focus on others.
The brain is a fascinating organ, and one of the best ways to understand and work on it is to become aware of it. So what you need to do is try to develop a better sense of self awareness. This might seem like simple advice, but it really isn’t. You start by thinking more clearly, and then you will get better.